There are a few of my favourite bloggers who are introducing more rhythm into their lives (all home-schooling), and it has hit a note with me. Life at home is usually the children doing "their things" and me doing "my things" whilst entertaining Sophie as well! And I suppose this is how it is with older children, and was certainly acceptable when Sophie was little, as she would get as much out of seeing me do things than she would playing. However, she is older now, and I really do need to introduce more things into her day.
I am not one for structure at all, getting something out of the freezer for tea ready to defrost over the course of the day is being organised for me! However, my children need me to be more organised, Alec is now bringing homework home from school (have never made him do it up til now, but he will get marks against his name if he doesn't do it at his new school), so this needs me to be organised, as does Sophie's increasing disposition to melting down if her needs are not met.
So, structure! I really DO need to honour Sophie's need for sleep. She will no longer fall asleep if she is tired, she will continue if there is stimulation until she reaches breaking point (which this week happened to be on the way on the bus), so sleep times need to be structured in. Which then leaves the morning to do some activities. This week we have done trampolining, play-dough, playing with the farm, playing with Sylvanian families, and painting. I do actually feel a bit daft writing that down, with the other children this is what we did naturally, without me having to think about it, I was so much more child-led at that point. But then I had no hobbies, no way of defining myself, I was simply a mum and nothing else. I would love to return to that, but I have more commitments now, allotment mainly! So perhaps a structure is the way to go.
It has been difficult doing the morning school run as well. Life, especially for Luke, seems so busy. So many things he wants to do, but school gets in the way, and he therefore tries to get it done in the evenings, leading to some rather late nights, which does not bode well for the following morning! It is such a dilemma, trying to do things other than the things that HAVE to be done. The "must do" things are so mundane ie sleep, eat, go to school, homework. The things he'd rather be doing are so much more interesting, ie WarHammer, building a remote control car, playing out with friends. I think we really could do with much longer days, or Luke would much prefer less school!
Our structure therefore is going to be very loose. Basically, trying to get all the mundane things done in an orderly fashion, and at the right time, leaving as much time as possible for all the fun stuff!